Niecy Nash on Marriage to Jessica Betts: 'I Never Want to Imagine a Future Without This Being'

Fuck!!! That’s so romantic.

Cat and mouse games ensued. Betts tried texting Nash the next day, who began to ignore her. Nash, meanwhile, said she had things to figure out, but ultimately relented, because, “She was all I could think about. I was like, I never want to imagine a future without this being... I don’t want that.” Betts then recounted a story that feels like a turning point in their romance:

“When we first started dating, when no one knew, she would just cry,” Betts recalls. “She would cry because it was almost as if she was not able to show her love. And we had to tell each other we loved each other in secret.” They were grocery shopping one day in the middle of lockdown when Betts heard the sudden sound of Nash’s crying.

“I’m just standing in the middle of the aisle like, ‘Ahhhhh!’” Nash admits, making the sound of someone stabbed in the heart. “She [Betts] comes from around the corner and said, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ I was like, ‘I just want to hold your hand in the grocery store.’”

Also of note is the way Nash reframed her “coming out” as “coming into myself,” contrary to the projected narrative on their relationship when they first appeared publicly last summer.

“It wasn’t like I was living a lie. I loved the people who I loved when I was with them. Do you understand me? I wasn’t living a lie. And I didn’t want that to be anything that was kept in the shadows or in dark corners even. So it wasn’t as much about me coming out as much as it was about me coming into myself, owning that I allowed myself to not only feel what I felt but then to do something about what I felt. And then to love her enough — and myself enough — to be able to share our truth with the world.”

There’s also this heart-wrenching moment between Betts and Nash, as they summarized their feelings after posting their wedding photograph on Instagram.

Still, Nash acknowledged, making the leap to coming out about the relationship was scary. “I cried about it. I prayed about it. And then once we posted that picture…I felt so free.” “We jumped,” Betts adds. “We jumped,” Nash echoes. “We jumped off the cliff and I felt so free.”

I feel free just reading about it! Best of luck to these two—they deserve it.