The Day Eleanor Roosevelt Wed a Cousin & Had Her Wedding Overshadowed 

“Of course, it was a great many years ago and it is difficult to remember everything,” Eleanor said of her wedding on her anniversary a few decades later. “I remember spending the morning madly writing thank-you notes.

“There was a great deal of excitement because of the very grand St. Patrick’s Day parade. Everybody was petrified for fear Uncle Ted wouldn’t be able to get through the parade to the house, but he was on time. Some of the guests had difficulty getting through.

It became clear, however, even 30 years later, that the memories of her big day were all marred by Uncle Ted:

“Everybody was very polite to use and came and said howdy-do, and then congregated around Uncle Ted, and we suddenly found ourselves all alone.

“That is why were are careful, if we go to any of the young people’s weddings, since Franklin has been President, that Franklin doesn’t take the limelight.”

The wedding itself, however, sounds like it was pretty nice. It was an afternoon ceremony, “witnessed only by a few intimate friends,” as the New York Times reported. The home itself was actually two homes:

The ceremony, which was at 3:30 o’clock, and witnessed only by a few intimate friends, in reality took place in the house of Mrs. E. Livington Ludlow, Mrs. Parish’s mother, whose house opens directly into her daughter’s by wide sliding doors. The two large drawing rooms on the second floor, done alike in pale amber-yellow satin brocade, were thrown into one large salon running the width of the two houses.

Eleanor had six bridesmaids, who were wearing “white faille silk frocks trimmed with lace and silver” with “tulle veils attached to white Prince of Wales ostrich feathers, tipped with silver, and carried large bouquets of pink roses.” (Apparently no photos exist of the day.)

As you can see on the left, her dress was also quite something: “a white satin princess robe, flounced and draped with old point lace, and with a white satin court train.” Her “point lace veil was caught with orange blossoms and a diamond crescent,” and “She wore a pearl collar, the gift of the bridegroom’s mother, and a diamond bowknot, the gift of Mrs. Warren Delano Jr.” She carried a bouquet lilies of the valley, and the room was decorated with a canopy of ferns, palms and pink roses.

Sadly, the wedding night was perhaps less successful than the ceremony, or Uncle Ted’s reception by the city of New York. The couple retired to Franklin’s family home in Hyde Park, where his mother, who had a contentious relationship with Eleanor, lived. As Hazel Rowley noted in her book Franklin and Eleanor: An Extraordinary Marriage:

The wedding night must have been awkward. Cousin Alice had once attempted, when they were in their early teens, to tell Eleanor the vague details she had gleaned about the facts of life. “I almost came to grief,” Alice recalled. “She suddenly leapt on me and tried to sit on my head an smother me with a pillow, saying I was being blasphemous. So I shut up and I think she probably went to her wedding not knowing anything about the subject after all.”

We do know the Roosevelts had a nice partnership, despite their complicated and imperfect marriage. And despite Uncle Ted.

Image of the Roosevelts the same month they were married in Hyde Park via AP; Image of Eleanor in her wedding dress via the FDR Library