Women Profiled in 'Feminist Housewives' Piece Say 'New York' Misquoted and Misrepresented Them
LatestKelly Makino and Rebecca Woolf, two of the women featured in New York‘s bogus trend piece about “feminist housewives” who are “having it all by choosing to stay home,” say the magazine prevaricated its portrayal of them to fit into its agenda: an “antidote” to Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In that would be sure to gin up controversy. Jezebel spoke with both women about how their stories and words got twisted into “leaning out.”
After I called “bullshit” on writer Lisa Miller’s New York story, taking Kelly Makino, the woman featured on the cover and on whom most of the story centered, to task for her gender essentialist views that I felt were decidedly unfeminist, Makino contacted me, saying the magazine took her quotes out of context and expressing her dismay at how she was initially interviewed as an “expert voice” (as the manager of press relations for the 600-family alliance that helps parents “pool time and resources”) but was downgraded to “cutesy case study.”
“A lot of what you had issues with we’re things that [the magazine] took out of context, edited heavily, or swayed to make them sound the way they wanted it to,” says Makino. “The research studies we chatted about during our day-long session were portrayed as spouting gender stereotypes…I vehemently support men in the role of primary caregiver.”
During our back-and-forth, it was clear to me that while Makino and I differ in our feminisms (at one point she referred to “penis envy” as though it were even a real thing and her mention of “women need to stop imitating men” made me uncomfortable) she isn’t exactly the traditionalist that Miller made her out to be.
“I think that in an effort to sell [issues New York] created a fairytale,” she says. “The piece was steeped in archetypes and conservative research, and the goal was to find the opposite of Sheryl Sandberg. Was is completely authentic? Not really. It’s pretty obvious to anyone that it was Disney-fied and edited to fit an agenda, right?”
Rebecca Woolf, who was also featured in the New York piece (albeit briefly, and with no quotes attributed to her), would agree. “This has been the most disgusting misrepresentation of what I do and who I am and what Miller and I spoke for an hour on the phone about,” she told me.
Woolf began her writing career as a teenager, contributing to and later editing volumes of Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul. She began blogging in 2003, and later started her parenting blog Girl’s Gone Child back in 2005 after giving birth to the first of her four kids. Miller described the creation of GGC as the result of Woolf’s “maternal ambition.”