Your Slacker Boyfriend Would Probably Like to See You Fail


Women are doing better than ever in school, and sometimes their male significant others can’t stand to see them succeed.

According to an August study by the American Psychology Association, a man’s “self-esteem is lower when he sees his female partner succeed than when he sees her fail”.

Thomas DiPrete, a sociology professor at Columbia University, says that a man might be upset about their lady partner’s success because of upheaval of traditional gender roles and possible bruised egos:

If they’re brought up to think that it’s the man’s job to be the primary breadwinner — but they’re dating or marrying women who are as successful or more successful than themselves — at least for some men, I think that creates problems in terms of a disconnect with a masculine identity they have.

Experts advise that communication is key when it comes to this — and all — relationship issues, but how far do young women need to go placate a partner who secretly seethes inside when she shines? That’s pretty fucking wack. Perhaps these dudes would be best benefitted by a mirror with which to check themselves.

[APA, USA Today]

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