Female Orgasm May Be the Missing Link in Post-Shag Pillow Talk


After demystifying the creepy pickup artist, Assistant Professor Amanda Denes is back to help us understand the delicate art of pillow talk. While pillow talk is understood to maintain intimacy and security in a relationship as well as an effective setting to continue the Star Wars/Star Trek debate, Denes was interested in the disparity in how people opened up to their sexual partners during the horribly scientifically named ‘post-coital time interval.’** In an article for UConn, she writes:

For some, saying “I love you” for the first time after sex brought the relationship to the next level. For others, the same disclosure led to regret for having confessed one’s sentiments too soon…Why such different experiences? Why were some people sharing their innermost feelings, even when they knew the relationship had not yet reached that level? What effects would these post-coital disclosures have on relationship satisfaction?

In her research with the University of Connecticut, Denes found that pillow talk is linked to the almighty female orgasm and its connection with oxytocin, the love/memory/bonding/fuzzy hugz hormone production. She found that women who had orgasmed during sex were more likely to open up to their partners than those who did not orgasm. Also, men did not disclose as much possibly because testosterone suppresses the oxytocin.

Of course, this doesn’t quite give as much insight into potential differences in hormone function in same sex pillow talk, though it does give new meaning to the concept of a ‘chatterbox.’ HEYO!

**Seriously, can we change ‘PCTI’ to something a bit easier on the ears? Like FTLM? Following The Love Making? AMD? After Mashing Danglies/Dens?

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