From an Ask Men article
about it (I know):
It’s a theory — and a fear — that has
haunted many men: Will she get lazy with her appearance after the wedding
bells?
And these
jokes I found in the comments of a story about post-wedding weight gain for
women:
thats because
single women come home see whats in the fridge and go to bed… married women
come home see whats in the bed and go to the fridge!
How do you
turn a fox into a whale ?…………….Marry her !!
Har-dee-ho! These jokes are right up there with the other major post-wedding
sentiment cried to women round the world: PLEASE GOD DON’T EVER CUT YER HAIR.
But it’s bigger than that, even. From the pressure to wed and tips
to get him to ask (without realizing you made him do it!), to those terrible
engagement/wedding
photos and cake toppers that portray women
dragging men to the altar, we talk about marriage mainly as something women want, and they’ll do anything to get it. But once
they get it? Ye olde switcheroo, my friend. As if our entire plan for world domination hinges on trapping every last hetero dude, plumping up and denying him sex.
There are logical reasons why a woman in particular might
gain weight post-official knot-tie, at least in the short-term: Many women lose weight for the flurry of photos on the big day and to get into the right dress, so after marriage, there’s no reasonable expectation to maintain an event-specific
diet (which I’m not condoning or judging, merely acknowledging the reality of).
Men historically haven’t endured this pressure in equal measure, though it’s likely they are more than
ever, now — here is an eight-week
wedding workout plan designed just for men.
But there are also plenty of reasons both folks could gain
weight after getting married, like just getting comfortable, or others,
like changing your eating habits, activity levels, hormones, and yeah, being
lazy. That could happen to a man or a woman.
But something about the perception that women as having some
innate need for trickery has always meant we are stuck with the rep for the bait and switch. Even if men are now the ones more likely to put on weight after the wedding, we all know that
there will be nowhere near the onslaught of worried articles advising them how
to avoid it, the
way there always have been for women.
Over at Redbook, writer Aaron Traister doesn’t sweat the
news. Instead, he theorizes it
might be a way to avoid cheating.
Sometimes
it’s really hard for everyone involved to “just say no.”
Obviously,
you should try remove yourself from these situations, but it also helps if you
let yourself go for an extra layer of protection/prevention.
I’m
arguing that part of the reason we get husky and start exclusively wearing
Under Armour polo shirts and relaxed-fit jeans is as a defense mechanism. It’s
like repellent against sexual advances from someone who isn’t your wife. Have
you been to a Little League game recently? You know how zebras bunch together
so that predators will have a harder time singling one out from the herd?
That’s what it’s like at Little League games, but with spare tires, polo
shirts, and ill-fitting pants. Middle-aged dads huddle together and blend into
this amorphous dad-blob. We are untouchable, and—more importantly—unf*ckable.
He’s right: I have never looked twice at a guy in
relaxed-fit jeans. Except to laugh. Here’s hoping the news of the married man’s greater penchant for expansion will give us all a few laughs. Because for
once in a study about weight, women are not the punchline: The only thing the research
noted about the crafty married women’s behavior post-wedding was that she is
more likely to eat breakfast five days a week. Shockingly sensible.
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