Remember when Naomi Wolf warned us that porn would turn young men off of real women? Well, now one website is fighting back.
Make Love Not Porn combines cartoony graphics (think a pink stick figure with enormous cumdrops surging towards her face) with tips about differentiating the porn world from the real world. In the porn world, the site says, “men love coming on women’s faces, and women love men coming on their faces.” But in the real world, “some women like this, some women don’t.” Good advice.
In its zeal to smash porn myths, Make Love Not Porn ends up generating a few myths of its own. It says, “there has to be some sort of rhythmic pressure on the clit in just the right way to make a woman come.” But (as the extremely graceful and considerate commenters on the site point out) some women can come with no clit contact at all.
The site also takes on porn’s unrealistic depiction of women’s bodies — sort of. In porn, it says, women don’t have pubic hair. In real life, “some men actively prefer women to keep their hair.” But what about women who actively prefer to keep their pubic hair? Isn’t the point that, while women in porn are meant to please men, women in real life should strive to please (at least in part) themselves?
Make Love Not Porn has its heart in the right place, telling visitors that sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice, and no one should expect real sex to look like Who’s Naylin Paylin. But the site is normative in its own way, pushing a form of heterosexual sex (no mention of gay porn here) that’s heavy on clitoral stimulation and skin-to-skin contact. And while this is probably more appealing to more women than, say, double anal penetration, it’s not what everybody wants.
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