Can You Raise A Well-Rounded Boy?

In our Daddy Issues series, a father of a young daughter seeks guidance, hoping to raise a strong woman. He looks to you, dear readers, for insight.

About three hours before the show began, my mom and I received free tickets to Billy Elliott. Thanks to my mom, I grew up singing “I’m gonna wash that man right out of my hair” from South Pacific and “I could have danced all night” from My Fair Lady. This never made me the most popular wrestler on the squad — “I’ll kick your ass tooooo-morrow!” — but we sure had a lot of fun. All these years later, it’s still the same. Give us a chance to see a show together, for free, and it’s almost shameless how quickly we drop everything and get moving.

Halfway through the show about a boy who takes up ballet, something struck me. It’s pretty easy to raise a girl and to teach her traditionally “boy” things (except for, say, kickboxing). People generally laud you for raising a well-rounded girl who knows how to wield a baseball bat as well as a princess wand. People say things like, “She’ll be strong,” or, “That will build her confidence.” Watching the show, I started to think about all the useful things I’ve taught my daughter over the years — from how to throw an arm bar to how to fix a toilet. Sitting there, seeing the boy who plays Billy dance so incredibly well, I began to wonder what it might have been like had I had a boy instead.